Everyday all of us wake up and have two choices. We can either focus on the positive things in our life or the negative. Each and every one of us has both, positives and negatives. Whatever we focus on is going to be the dominant one.
If I wake up and only focus on the things that Champion can’t do yet, on the amount of time and energy caring for him requires of me, and all of the things that I am unable to do as a result of both of these, the day ends up being not the best. However when I wake up thinking of the amazing things Champion has already accomplished, how much I enjoy being his mom, and the many blessings I have, these days end up being pretty good.
The thing is, most of my days consist of pretty much the same things. We wake up, get ready, go to therapy, do therapy at home, eat, do housework, nap, do g tube feeds. Not much on my to do list changes but my take on the day can vary greatly. Some days it is nearly impossible for me to accomplish all that needs to be done and some days I breeze through full of joy and zest for life.
I began to examine what was different about some days versus others. I realized that the old adage of how I was looking at the glass was at play. See the days that I had a zest for life I wasn’t looking at circumstances with Champion negatively. On these days I was full of expectation for the future, saw each day as an opportunity to help Champion achieve more milestones and saw the glass as half full. The other days the glass was half empty and empty is how I would feel.
I realized that I cannot control every circumstance in my life, but that how I respond to it is completely up to me. Every day I can decide to meet it with joy and expectation or I can meet it with negative thoughts from the gitgo. I have begun being more conscious of the decisions I am making regarding my day.
It is not always easy and I have to fight through some pretty strong negative emotions at times, but the days when I really make the effort to nip the negative thoughts in the bud, there really is a difference in the enjoyment of that day.
Let’s face it. Being a mom is rewarding but is also hard work. It can be draining. It can zap your energy, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Add a child with special needs into the mix and it can become dangerously draining. Attitude is not always the only area that needs to be examined and tended to but it definitely needs to be a priority.
What tips do you have for keeping a good attitude in the midst of challenging circumstances?